Just Like That, It’s Gone

I saw the woman crying as she left the office and thought, “There are few things as sad as seeing a woman sobbing as she leaves the OB’s office.”

Two hours later, I was the one sobbing as I left.

But, before the sobbing, there was lots of smiling and hugging. I took a pregnancy test on January 8th and it was positive. I found out later, I was probably only 3 weeks pregnant (or so). I promptly took a picture with my phone and made some friends confirm the very faint lines I saw. And then I drove to a Dollar Tree to buy every test they had and spent the next two days taking them. All of them had that lovely second line.

After that first week or so, nothing seemed right. I started testing my glucose (I jump straight from not diabetic to gestational diabetes the second I get pregnant) andร‚ย  the numbers were elevated. And then they weren’t. I had all of the early pregnancy symptoms and then I didn’t. But all of the blood work came back strong. My hormone levels were climbing perfectly and there was no logical reason not to think that the baby would thrive and be born in September. William, the doctor, my friends and I kept saying, “Every pregnancy is different! This one is just giving you an easy time.”

Because my doctor is amazing and responsive, she listened to my weird feelings and we started doing ultrasounds in addition to the blood work to try to get the baby measured and figure out what was going on. The first ultrasound showed all the pre-baby stuff just as it should (yay yolk sac!). The second showed a tiny blob that might have been the fetal pole. Maybe. The third showed nothing. Just an empty black oval where an embryo with a beating heart should have been.

So I left the office sobbing. And I came home to my amazing husband who got me ice cream and bought me shoes and held me. My wonderful friends and colleagues sent me beautiful flowers and texts.

And now I wait for it all to be over.

Comments

  1. Beth says

    Praying for you. I had that experience….many years ago. Very hard. But God is your healer and He will bring you peace that passes understanding…as you turn to Him in this time. Love you!

  2. Momma says

    I was finally able to get here to read. When we spoke on phone I was sorta ok. Now my tears have come. I love you and William so very much. You both are so amazing. Love you momma’s baby girl. I am always here if you need me.

  3. Linda R. says

    Oh Sherry! My heart is breaking for you. I’ve been through secondary infertility, an ectopic pg, fertility treatments, a miscarriage and more before having our sweet girl. If you ever need to talk, I’m here. {{Hugs}} to you and William.

    • says

      Linda~Thanks for stopping by. I’m so sorry you guys had to go through so much, although I know your daughter is worth it. I appreciate you reaching out.

  4. says

    I realize it’s been a month, but so sorry. We lost a baby in ’07, and there’s nothing like that pain. So sorry! Let me know if you wanna talk!

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