Conversations With Nicholas: What Is Gay Edition

The other night, I was getting ready for bed, and Nicholas was on our bed playing his 3DS when the following conversation happened... Nicholas: Mom, what is "gay"? Sherry: It's when a man loves a man or a woman loves a woman. Nicholas: Oh. So, if Lemmon [our female dog] was a boy, and I loved her, I'd be gay? Sherry: Nope, like romantic love. The way that Mommy and Daddy love each … [Read more...]

Raising Boys With Respect, Honor and Love

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I've been thinking a lot lately about raising boys with respect, both mine toward them and theirs toward everyone else and themselves. I've been thinking about it, partly, because I know someone who is coming to terms with having a boy instead of the girl she really wanted. I will admit that I fully expected to have daughters, and was surprised when I didn't. With Nicholas, I was surprised because … [Read more...]

He Balances Me

I'm constantly amazed at how balanced my life is because of William. How balanced I am. When I am anxious, he talks me down. When I am angry, he makes me laugh. When I take myself too seriously, he lightens the load. When I am sad about Mark, he lets me be sad, but doesn't let me accept guilt. When I want to make impulsive decisions, he injects some practicality. When I'm too … [Read more...]

Nicholas at Seven

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My Sweetest Nicholas, I can't believe you turned 7 this month. SEVEN! I know I say it every year, but I don't know how the time passes so quickly. Seven was a big year for you. You grew so much, both in height and maturity. This year's school year was tougher than Kindergarten, but you kept at it and it got a lot better. And the light bulb lit up for you when it came to reading. I was so … [Read more...]

William Makes Father’s Day

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Father's Day wasn't, traditionally, a big holiday for me. I haven't seen or spoken to my own father since I was 11. My wonderful Uncle David served as a surrogate father throughout my life, but I always knew he was borrowed from my cousin, Heather (although neither of them ever made me feel that way). Mark's Dad got Father's Day cards and meals from us, but Mark only got one of the special days … [Read more...]