White Fragility and Me

I'm a sensitive person. The thought of accidentally or callously hurting someone is dreadful to me. I'm an honest person, I try not to lie, but sometimes telling the truth hurts people's feelings and that upsets me. And empathy? I've got that down. I can find a way to relate to almost anyone (almost). I can only think of one time in my life when I was actively mean to someone to be mean, and as an … [Read more...]

Conversation With N & T: Every Day Racism

My friend, Issa posted a video on Facebook this summer that showed middle-school-aged children talking about the every day racism they encounter in their lives. I had the boys watch it with me one day and then we talked about it. This is part of our conversation... Me: What do you think about what those kids were saying? Nicholas: I don’t get it? Why do the workers in the restaurant think the … [Read more...]

Racism and Listening

I've spent a lot of the last year reading and listening about racism. I've had conversations with people I respect and whose views and perspectives on race come from personal experience. Before the last year and a half or so, I thought I understood what my friends who have been impacted by racism were going through. I'm a liberal woman with friends of many ethnicities, gender identifications and … [Read more...]