Great Expectations

I am cross-posting this entry from my new friend, Greta's, blog. Greta has created a wonderful blog series of guest posts called Great Expectations. You should go read them, the women who have posted are fascinating and so very diverse. I was honored when Greta asked me to contribute, and the following post was published on her blog last week. My Great Expectations... I had it all planned … [Read more...]

Widow Wednesday: What Did You Say?

My amazing friend Robin recently ran with the Widow version of "S%*t People Say" meme. She put a call out to her widow friends to gather the (mostly) well-meaning things that people say to widows and came up with this hysterical (maybe just to widows?) video: I heard most, if not all, of these and one point or another. Most of the time, people were really trying to be thoughtful. Or at … [Read more...]

Widow Wednesday: Giving Up Hope

Several months ago, when I was dropping the kids off at my Grandmother's house, my attention was caught by a story on the TODAY show. The story was about a person who had woken from a coma.  I tend to notice all of those stories, but then this had the phrase I hate. The patient woke up when, "the family was just about to give up hope". This isn't just a pet peeve. This phrase cuts me to the … [Read more...]

I Hate Columbus Day

I either love Columbus Day or I hate it. I hate it because it was the last day that Mark was home. The Tuesday after Columbus Day he went into the second hospital and never came back. I was off of work for Columbus Day and together with Mark's parents we decided that it would be the test day for Mark to see if he could take care of Nicholas by himself. Until then, Mark's parents stayed at our … [Read more...]

Widow Wednesday: Movies Lie

In real life, comas aren't like they are in the movies. That may not be a surprise to you, but it was to me. I was shocked by so many things when Mark got sick and during his time in the hospital(s). Like his coma. They said he was in a coma, but I didn't believe them for a few days because it didn't look like comas look in the movies. I know. That's stupid, right? To be surprised that reality … [Read more...]